Searyl and I had the pleasure of being profiled in a short documentary film by our friend Rebecca Poulin. She was studying digital arts at Selkirk College and made this short doc about me and Sea and my choice to raise Sea with room to self determine their gender.   Read more →

“When a mommy and a daddy love each other very much….” Hold up. We are in a different frame. A time and reality where we have long ago (and more and moreso all the time) recognized that families can be single parent ventures, grandparents raising their grandkids, gay dads, queer moms, aunts, uncles, foster parents, adoptions from near and far,… Read more →

This is the second letter to my cousin while she is pregnant. You can read the first one here. This one came after a brief exchange celebrating the end of her first trimester and a short list of names that her and her partner had come to. With very different backgrounds and cultural traditions around naming, their process has been… Read more →

Some nights are slower going. S is For Spirit Bear, Green Eggs and Ham and an Ivan Coyote story read out loud- you are still young enough that I pick the stories. Followed by a free style mashup song of Rock-A-Bye Baby, the song the kids sing before the Nazi’s come in sound Of Music and the song that the… Read more →

  It seems that while post-partum depression is widely understood to be a real phenomenon that affects lots’ of new parents, our society still sucks at dealing with it. I’ve been asked a few times lately if I’m “Doin alright?”.  The answer is, “yeah, for the most part.” Cause I have had lots of practice learning how to deal with… Read more →

I have been puzzling over how to write more about my experiences and insights of pregnancy. Obviously I have stories to tell, but I was unsure how to approach it- and then I got a message from my cousin. There it was, the frame. This is the first of a series of letters to her wherein I download some of… Read more →

People have been asking me, pretty much every time I go out in public, “So how’s the pregnancy going?”. I’ve discussed this with other parents before about how once we venture into this whole process, the ways that we are vessels trump everything else about who we may have been. Good friends have shared with me the ways that they… Read more →

Working in harm reduction I have heard people describe certain substances in a way that they “turn up the experience.” Some drugs will synergistically turn up the effects of others, while other substances have the ability to turn up the experience of the music, the lights, the emotions. Sometimes this amplification is a desired and desirable effect. Other times it… Read more →

  I was honoured to be interviewed this week for andi’s column on the website Little Red Tarot. I talk about spiritual work, tarot, psychedelics and gender fuckery. To read the interview in full check it out on LRT.   Oh and while you are here- you will probably see a little pop-up that prompts you to join my mailing… Read more →